Election Eve

I wake up this morning with a deep sense of melancholy as the the clouds of uncertainty gather into storms of unrest and inevitably. I can’t help wonder if it’s too late to make any difference even if I receive the outcome for which I am hopeful. I feel a deep loss of self in…

Courage

When I came out at work, everyone called me courageous for doing so. I tried to tell them that it wasn’t about fear. It was about just doing what I had to do at the time to survive and get past the uneasiness of not being able to be myself in all parts of my…

Despair

At what point do I give up? Is it when the state I live in outlaws body autonomy for women? Is it when the country I live in values religious freedom over my rights to exist and be treated equally? Is it when I can no longer advance in my career because now I’m not…

What are they really afraid of?

What is it about being transgender that scares people so much? There are so many groups out there that hate and fear our very existence, as if we upset some cosmic balance and the universe will implode if we continue to exist. Most of the arguments against us follow along the same lines as historical…

Privilege

The phrase ‘toxic masculinity’ is used frequently these days. I don’t think that it is masculinity, per se, that is toxic. I think it is privilege. I think the phrase ought to be ‘toxic privilege’. Privilege is what gives people the feeling of entitlement that allows them to take advantage of others. Worse, the privileged…